“Do I please you”

I was watching “Pride and Prejudice” the other night, which led me to a thought, how much the world has changed in the last 400 years. I am not talking about the reality TV show, Pride and Prejudice, I’m talking about the Jane Austin book. The one where people were proper!

There is a number of scenes in the book where Jane says to Elizabeth about Mr. Darcy not seeing her as “agreeable” or “you do not please him”. Elizabeth, the prejudice one, says it wasn’t her business to “please” Mr. Darcy.

Elizabeth’s sisters and parents were astounded by Elizabeth’s behaviour. Of course, it should have been Elizabeth’s duty “to be pleasing towards men” so she could find an “appropriate husband”.

This is in the time where a woman married for duty and definitely not for love. It was a way of retaining the aristocracy and the blue blood whilst containing the assets within the family. A father who found an “agreeable” husband for their daughter was a “pleasing character” who had done his job. In fact, you would pay a considerable dowry to ensure that his daughter was appropriately wed.

Hasn’t it all changed! No longer does a woman need to please a man, it is now cultural that the man must please his woman. The prejudice won, whereby the man must fulfill the checklist of a girl and not the other way around.

Yes, these changes are somewhat for the better. Half the race should not be considered as an asset whilst the other half possess them. In our office, everything is determined by merit, not by the colour, gender or disability. Success is based on proven performance.

Nonetheless, it always seems that our race wishes to be a war with each other. What happens to our race when there is a true battle of the sexes? We are overpopulated, so there may be a good reason to have a battle of the sexes to not reproduce. Unfortunately, if we do not reproduce, we don’t
have enough people to look after us oldies!

The simple conundrum is; Is there ever a chance that the sexes can be equal? Where we can live in a true partnership whilst building a race which continues to advance? Regrettably, it will always be a
balance of power between the sexes.

This article was written by Bailey Compton, Principal Solicitor & Director at Leverage Group.

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